Friday, February 25, 2011

A Day Spent Together

There are many things to mourn on this day.  We've lost our son, gone two years now.  My girls have lost their brother.  His grandparents, nieces, nephews have all lost their Henry.  We mourn the loss of innocence, for us and the girls; the loss of not only who he was, but also who he was becoming.

In the face of this all I try keeping perspective on the experience we had of Henry and that can never be lost.  I sometimes regret  not having more pictures or more movies of him.  I remind myself though that this is a consequence of fully being with him at the time, not separated by a lens, not looking forward or looking back, just looking and being.

So today we'll try to focus on now and the people who make our lives rich with meaning.  Our family is supportive, as are our close circle of friends.  There's not always anything to say or do, but just looking and being with us, acknowledging the pain and loss, but accepting that burden and walking together.

We miss you desperately dear boy.  You're constantly in our hearts and thoughts and we love you dearly.


Anonymous said...

Bryan, Tara, Anna, and Sophie -

You all have been on my mind all week as this date drew nearer. I wish I could say more other than I am still so very sorry for your loss of such a sweet and loving little boy. We miss you too Henry, but still feel your impact on our lives. Hugs to you all.

Love, Julie

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Michelle said...

Thinking of your family today. UPS truck went by my house today and made me think of Henry... I believe God let me see that truck go by on purpose! :) Pray you and your family had a positive day together with each other.
Michelle in VT

Anonymous said...

We think of your family often. Hard to believe it has been two years. Still hard to wrap our heads around that fact. Both our kids were very special souls. We hope you continue to find happiness in each day as you heal from your loss.

Lots of hugs,
Shirley, Wayne, Fiona, and Angel Sophia